What If Your PMS Pain Isn’t Just Physical? A True Story of Healing From the Inside Out
Every month, millions of women brace themselves for the same storm: the headaches, the cramping, the emotional spirals. PMS symptoms are so common, we’ve been conditioned to believe they’re normal. But what if they’re not just physical? What if your painful ovulation is actually a message—from your body, your subconscious, your story?
Meet Julie: A Woman Who Carried More Than Just Physical Pain
Julie (name changed for privacy) is a radiant, resilient woman in her mid-thirties. When we began working together, she had already survived a long, emotionally abusive marriage and was slowly rebuilding her life post-divorce. To the outside world, she seemed like she had it all together: a loving mother, a respected professional, a loyal friend.
But privately, she was still carrying deep emotional scars—and one symptom that wouldn’t go away.
Every month, like clockwork, ovulation brought with it intense physical pain. We're not talking about mild discomfort. We're talking about the kind of pain that made her want to disappear for hours. No other PMS symptoms, just a stabbing, soul-shaking reminder that her body still hadn’t fully healed.
The Medical Mystery of Painful Ovulation
Medically, painful ovulation (also known as mittelschmerz) is often brushed off as “just part of being a woman.” But for Julie, it was more than that. It was deeply personal.
She had spent years in fertility treatments, struggling to ovulate at all. She endured multiple miscarriages before finally giving birth to her miracle child. Through it all, she was told—by her then-husband and sometimes even by doctors—that she was "not normal."
Now, post-divorce and years into therapy, her body was ovulating naturally… but with intense pain. Why?
Healing the Unseen: Emotional Trauma and the Body
In one session, I gently asked Julie a question I often pose to clients dealing with chronic or recurring symptoms:
“What could your body be trying to say?”
At first, she was puzzled. Then, after sitting with the question in silence, the realization hit her.
Her pain wasn’t a problem to be fixed. It was a proof point. A message from her subconscious that said:
“You are normal. You are whole. You are capable. You are no longer broken.”
For years, her body had been conditioned to believe what her ex-husband repeated like gospel—that she was abnormal, less-than, broken as a woman. Now, the pain was a twisted kind of reassurance.
But with that awareness, something profound shifted.
The Power of Awareness and Deciding Your New Truth
Julie began to see her cycle in a new light. She no longer needed pain to validate her worth or functionality. She didn’t need suffering to prove she was capable of creating life.
She re-decided her truth:
“I am healthy. I am whole. I don’t need pain to believe that anymore.”
In our next session, she smiled and said the words I never get tired of hearing:
“I didn’t feel anything this month. I actually forgot what day I was on in my cycle.”
And months later? Still pain-free.
How Many Women Are Carrying This Silent Pain?
Julie's story is not rare. So many women carry emotional trauma in their bodies—especially in the womb space. From past relationships to societal messages about womanhood, our pain often has roots we’re not even aware of.
That’s why I wrote My Beauty & My Beast—to share the deeper, often hidden stories of healing that live inside us all. It’s a journey through the mind-body connection, the power of emotional awareness, and the freedom that comes from rewriting our subconscious beliefs.
Your Pain Has a Story. Are You Ready to Listen?
If you’ve ever felt dismissed by doctors…
If you’ve ever wondered if your body is trying to tell you something…
If you’ve lived through emotional pain that still lingers in your physical form…
You’re not alone. And there’s hope.
My Beauty & My Beast is not just a book. It’s an invitation to see your pain with new eyes—and to begin your own journey back to wholeness.
